Amelia teaches Trans 101: How to refer to a trans person's past

Posted on June 10, 2014 | 5 min read time

image source: wikiHow This is something that seems to come up from time to time so I think it’s an important thing to talk about. What’s the best way to talk about a trans person’s past? For example, if you’re telling a story about someone, how should your refer to them? Should you use their chosen name and the pronouns they’ve asked you to use or should you stick with what they went by at the time? [Read More]

My life is totally not what I expected it to be and I'm really happy about that

Posted on June 3, 2014 | 6 min read time

The color version of this photo is literally my favorite photo of me *ever* I’ve been thinking a lot recently about how we change and grow. Sometimes, our lives turn out so far from where we thought they would, it’s hard to believe we’re physically the same person we used to be—well, okay, I’m not quite even physically the same person anymore, but you know what I mean. [Read More]

The Power of Pronouns

Posted on May 30, 2014 | 5 min read time

On Tuesday, I wrote about feeling great and being very happy with where I am with transition related stuff. It was just one of those days where I felt awesome and beautiful. Every time I looked in the mirror, I loved what I saw so much. My confidence was through the roof. Unfortunately, like pretty much everyone else, we have ups and downs with our self-confidence and sometimes things happen that can shake that confidence. [Read More]

Early summer progressions

Posted on May 27, 2014 | 4 min read time

Owl earrings! Though I’ve considered the physical part of my transition over for a little while now, transition isn’t something you go through for a little while and then just ends. At least not for me. I still have plenty of issues and plenty of things that bother me about myself, but, for the most part, I can look in the mirror and be pretty damn happy about how far I’ve come. [Read More]

Amelia teaches Trans 101: "In reality you have a penis"

Posted on May 9, 2014 | 14 min read time

Yesterday, I received the above messages on Facebook and I thought it would make for a great second lesson in the Trans 101 series of posts here. Typically, questions/messages/comments like this tend to go a certain way. When you’re used to having your identity and humanity questioned and your answers to those questions dismissed, it’s hard to not get defensive when something looks like it’s going in that direction. [Read More]

Suicidal / Sluricidal

Posted on April 17, 2014 | 8 min read time

Trigger warning for talk about suicide and slurs. I woke up yesterday morning and followed my typical work-from-home routine. I went straight from bed to the kitchen to feed the cats and get the coffee going. As I walked back upstairs to login to the work VPN and get set up to start working, I thought about how much I wanted to finish the blog post I started last week about finding acceptance. [Read More]

One year on HRT!

Posted on April 1, 2014 | 4 min read time

Today is my one year HRTiversary! I think it’s fitting that I started fixing this joke of a body on April Fool’s. When I look back over the past year, it’s almost hard to believe it’s been a year already, but so much has happened and changed that it really does feel like a lifetime. It also took me almost a year after accepting transition before I started hormones so, when it finally happened, it felt like a long time coming. [Read More]